Let’s change the way we look at others

So, I woke up really early with pain (chronic condition) but my brain would not shut off. I figured I might as well share. One of my goals for this blog, is to encourage less judgement of others. There’s too much these days, especially “mom shaming”. I know this comment will make me sound old, but this generation of young women need more self acceptance and compassion for others. It seems like it’s a “me” generation. I think we can all help each other with that.

Let me clarify too…even if you aren’t an actual “mom”, you most likely do some mothering. It may be a niece, nephew, step child, student, neighbor. You get the idea.

I should admit too that I have not always been as accepting as I should be. There have been many times that I secretly judged others. Somehow, God had a way of helping me see the other side of things by giving me some experiences of my own to learn from. We all, myself included, are works in progress. We can always strive to improve.

We need to encourage each other, accept different ideas in parenting, and maybe this will increase self confidence. I believe the “me” part comes from everyone worrying about how they are perceived. That’s the good/bad part of social media. Everyone knows what everyone else is doing.

I raised three boys. My parenting was absolutely never perfect, but I did what I felt best at the time, and prayed I didn’t do anything that caused emotional harm. Believe me, now I hear stories from my adult kids about many things I missed. My life is now blessed with granddaughters and daughters in law. I’m learning a whole different side of emotions. I still try my hardest to show love and acceptance. I’ve been blamed for some misunderstanding of actions, and I guess that’s partly what I’m trying to address. Let’s try to take a breath before blame and criticism. My mom taught me “put the best construction on everything”. Old wording, I know, but basically think the best first until proven otherwise.

Feel free to share some comments. Maybe you have a story that will helps others.

See, they grew up quite well despite my mistakes in parenting

with God all things are possible

Matthew 19:26

The “mom” job

So, if you are anything like me, you have a love/hate relationship with motherhood. I know, how dare I admit that it’s not always wonderful!! Well, it’s ok, it’s only wonderful on rare occasions. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids, my family, my husband, and my life. But that doesn’t mean it’s all rosy.

I’m here to tell my story, and hopefully help someone else along the way. There are things that I certainly wish I knew, or that I had someone to secretly ask “is this normal?!?!”. I have a mom, sisters, and friends, but some things seem better getting knowledge anonymously.

I plan to share stories from my journey. I’m a mother, sister, aunt, niece, Mimi, nurse, nurse practitioner, nurse midwife, and wife. I’m sure this isn’t everything, but you get the idea. I’m willing to share, and I hope you are too!!

Some of my favorite people call me mimi!! It’s truly the best part of motherhood. More later on the part of being a Mimi that isn’t so much fun…